One of the biggest difficulties for my spouse was learning to become a KH, even in the reasoned version. She didn't decide to be KH. It was my idea, my desire! Accepting the chastity cage, managing the key, demanding pleasure for her, refusing mine, holding the cage in place, it was all difficult for her.
Principle number one, the spouse of a man wearing the chastity cage must proudly wear his title of KH. She always has a chastity cage close at hand: in her bedside table, her handbag, her suitcase, she can go out and firmly impose the chastity cage in a fraction of a second. It's non-negotiable! We were staying with friends who have a pool and spa. Going to put on my jersey, she said to me: “Here, put that too! giving me my cage. There is nothing better than the surprise effect to create happiness!
And when it's the spouse who proposes it, she never says no, because putting the cage on does not commit anything for the KH. He's the one wearing it, not her.
Principle number two, whatever form of CMC is adopted, the KH must learn to demand pleasure for her, without exchange, without return.
So, if the spouse wants pleasure, and she wants the spouse to participate in it without ending with penetration, the surest way to achieve this is to demand the chastity cage. She will then decide the fate of the cage once her pleasure has been obtained.
In our couple it is done almost systematically. I put the cage on and she bars the lock. Women who have mastered the art of CMC well have understood all the pleasure of getting one-way sex. Just for her! The principle is maintained in the reasoned CMC. As for me, as long as she has the key it's only up to her to decide.
One of the advantages of the cage during sexual activities that my wife has learned to appreciate is that she has all the control. My spouse is entirely clitoral, and she appreciates long foreplay with caresses, scented candles, sweet words, simplicity. She's not always looking to orgasm for herself either. She doesn't like penetration so much that she mainly uses it as a bargaining chip, a way to please me. With the cage, no more eagerness, no more menacing penis in erection which says to him: “Me, me, me! ". Everything is done slowly. She very much appreciates the peace of mind now offered to her by reasoned CMC and penetration control. She learned to appreciate this pleasure without feeling guilty for not giving in return.
Selfish and remorseless woman! This is the attitude of a good reasoned KH!
Ladies, you who hesitate to put your man in a cage to guarantee your pleasure, do not be full of remorse, on the contrary. Refuse penetration without embarrassment.
The other effort to be an exemplary reasoned KH is to learn to ask for cunnilingus. It is up to her to ask for it, without any pressure from the spouse. Don't worry too much about what it tastes like, what it smells like. After a few licks, everything works out for him.
You have the right to abuse this pleasure, grant it to yourself! The more often you ask him, the more expert he becomes. And the more expert he becomes, the more often you ask for it. Morning, evening, visiting friends, ask and you will receive.
And you understand that it's more often one-sided, if not always one-sided. Your man is in a cage and his sexuality is under control, he gave you the best cunnilingus in the world and you fall asleep spooning into his arms, his cage leaning on you – a little oversight? Not really! Enjoy! Abuse this power given to you! He loves you, he is happy!
Selfish and remorseless woman! This is the attitude of a good reasoned KH!